Divorcing someone who’s been diagnosed as narcissistic, or who has narcissistic tendencies, can be an emotionally draining experience. These individuals are manipulative and self-centered. They can’t empathize with others and generally only think about what’s easiest and best for their own needs.
Because of the nature of narcissists, trying to negotiate the terms of a divorce with one can be inherently difficult. In some cases, it’s downright impossible. Anyone who’s going through a divorce with a narcissist can benefit from both legal guidance and considering the following tips.
Set firm boundaries
Narcissists like to feel powerful, so they will try to push their adversary to their limits. Divorcing a narcissist means having to clearly and firmly set boundaries for what’s acceptable and what isn’t. One way to do this is to limit communication to emails or text messages, which is also helpful because they provide proof of what’s said. It may also be helpful to outline what topics are up for discussion and what’s off limits.
Protect your emotional well-being
Divorcing a narcissist can take a significant toll on your mental and emotional health. It’s important to seek support from trusted friends, family or a therapist who can help you navigate the emotional challenges. Taking care of yourself through regular exercise, adequate sleep and engaging in activities you enjoy can also help maintain your emotional resilience.
Document everything
Documentation is crucial when dealing with a narcissist during a divorce. Keep detailed records of all interactions, including emails, text messages and any other interactions. This documentation can provide concrete evidence to support your claims. Additionally, keep records of financial transactions and any agreements made because narcissists may attempt to deny or alter previous statements.
Focus on the long-term
Divorcing a narcissist can be a prolonged and contentious process, but focusing on the long-term outcome can help you stay motivated. Remember that your goal is to walk away with the best settlement possible. Working with a legal representative who’s familiar with the process of divorcing a narcissist may be beneficial because they can provide valuable information about the options that may help to legally end the marriage as efficiently and effectively as possible.