Divorcing spouses often find themselves disagreeing with one another. In some cases, their disputes may become so intense that litigation seems all but inevitable. However, even those experiencing high levels of conflict can potentially take control of the divorce process and resolve their disputes by attending divorce mediation.
Mediation can be beneficial for spouses in a variety of circumstances. Successful mediation can also be beneficial for any minor children the spouses have with one another. While the children may not attend mediation or even be aware that their parents are about to mediate divorce issues, they may ultimately have an easier time adjusting to life after the divorce because of mediation.
How can mediation benefit the children in a family?
By reducing conflict
Mediation requires a cooperative approach to outstanding disagreements. The spouses must communicate with one another about their perception of the situation and expectations. They can then negotiate until they find a solution that seems reasonable to both of them.
In a litigated divorce, the level of conflict may slowly increase as the spouses dig in their heels and fight bitterly over various terms. Their children may end up suffering because of the amount of conflict produced by the divorce. Higher levels of conflict between parents have a direct correlation with worse mental health outcomes for their children. By keeping things civil, parents limit how damaging the divorce becomes for their children.
By eliminating pressure on the children
Children often feel stuck in the middle when their parents divorce. Especially when there are disputes about custody matters, children may feel like they have to choose between their parents. Older children may actually have to talk with a judge or a court-appointed professional about their custody preferences.
The pressure to have those conversations and express an opinion about custody can be harmful for children. They may fear damaging the relationship that they have with either parent. When parents successfully mediate, their children don’t have to testify in court or make their custody preferences known. They are less likely to feel caught in the middle and to worry about damaging their bond with one of their parents.
Proposing mediation while preparing for an upcoming divorce can be a smart move for concerned parents. Successful divorce mediation can potentially prove beneficial for everyone in the family in the long run.