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Things to keep in mind when divorcing with children

On Behalf of | May 31, 2024 | Divorce

When people get married, they intend for their unions to be lifelong. However, things do not always go as planned, and divorces occur. If there are children, matters become even more complicated. If you and your spouse are divorcing and you are parents, there are some things you must consider.

Tell them the truth

If you’re considering a divorce, tell your children the truth with your spouse instead of separately. Although you must be honest, you don’t have to give your kids specific details about why you’re divorcing. Explain that you will no longer be married but will continue being a family.

Traditional divorce in court might negatively impact them

Something important to consider is that if your divorce ends up as a court case, your children might suffer. Everything becomes a public record. Additionally, the process can take many months or even years, and things can become overly emotional for the entire family. Even if you and your spouse are at odds and have been arguing, it’s better to avoid going to court. An alternate way to end your marriage is through divorce mediation, which allows you and your spouse to compromise and negotiate with one another.

Be respectful and civil

Always remain respectful and civil. Avoid fighting in front of your kids, and never use them as pawns to hurt your spouse or get information on them. Countless studies demonstrate that putting your children in the middle of adult disputes and using them as pawns can have devastating psychological consequences.

Be a team

Divorce doesn’t have to mean a change in co-parenting. Continue being a team with your former spouse in child-rearing. This shows the children that you’re both equally there for them no matter what.

Divorce is tough for everyone, especially children. However, keeping these considerations in mind throughout the process can make the situation easier for everyone.