A divorce can bring strong emotions, as this is one of the most challenging times in life. One of the primary aspects of divorce with children is creating an agreement with your ex-spouse to share custody. Despite the latest trends of sharing custody equally, it is imperative to consider your children’s needs rather than just fairness to a former partner.
Consider the needs of your child above all else
Divorce can be difficult for everyone and can be incredibly challenging for children. While providing equal time between parents at the outset of a divorce may seem important, some children may not benefit from this arrangement. If your children have multiple hobbies, attend different schools, or have different schedules, sharing custody may not be possible or in their best interest.
Children living in an equal share custody agreement may feel a lack of attachment to one or both parents. They may also have difficulty adjusting to new routines, separate rules at separate houses, and knowing where they belong. Going into a custody negotiation and understanding the wants and needs of your children can help you determine if a shared custody plan may work for them.
Critically assess your ex-spouse’s ability to care for children
In many cases, a former spouse may not care for their children suitably. This may be because of a variety of factors, such as work schedule, finances, or personal parenting style. If you have doubts about your ex-partner’s ability to care for your children in your absence competently, acknowledge this concern while determining your child custody case. Thinking critically now can save years of challenging times in the future.
The best interest of your children should be a priority when working out your divorce agreement.