If you're adverse to conflict, then divorce is probably going to be an uncomfortable process for you. Litigation can force you to air all of your disputes with your spouse in open court, thereby leaving your personal life in the hands of a judge who doesn't know you and your family. Fortunately, you may be able to minimize conflict and retain a bigger say in your divorce if you and your spouse are able to work things out through divorce mediation.
Divorce can take a toll on just about every aspect of your life. Financially, of course, one's marriage dissolution will probably leave them with less income and fewer assets with which to build a new life. Yet, most New Jersey residents who seek out marriage dissolution do so because their happiness is more important than money. But for others, the emotional toll caused by divorce is significant. It is common for individuals to feel a variety of emotions throughout the process, including anger, sadness, confusion, and frustration.
While divorce mediation is not right for every New Jersey couple going through a split, people who are in a high conflict separation should not get scared off from the process automatically. Through no fault of their own, many people do wind up in high conflict divorces. In many cases, neither person, individually, is especially difficult to get along with. However, as a couple, the two parties have both come to the point where they almost by reflex contradict what the other person says or wants.
There are some divorcing couples in New Jersey who, despite the fact that they are ending their marriage, can be civil enough with each other to consider divorce mediation to get through the legal process. Of course, such an option doesn't work for everyone. Each couple must consider their possible ability to get through the process successfully, so that they don't waste time and financial resources.
It might be obvious that if a couple is getting a divorce those individuals probably have a hard time agreeing on many topics. But, just because that was the state of the relationship in the months or years leading up to the divorce doesn't mean that the couple can't attempt to work together in the divorce process to get the legal matters behind them and move on with their lives. This is where divorce mediation can come into play.
Although many New Jersey residents probably think that every divorce case is a bitter feud between two soon-to-be ex-spouses, that isn't always the case. Some couples can actually work together, relatively speaking, in order to advance the case in a civil and purposeful way. In these types of cases, mediation of the divorce case can have many distinct advantages as opposed to courtroom litigation.
It is understandable that many people who are going through a divorce in New Jersey might get sidetracked during the process by emotions and minor points that may not have a significant impact on a person's life after the divorce process is finalized. If a couple decides to go through divorce mediation, one of the goals of the process will likely be to stay focused and get through the list of issues that need to be addressed to finalize the divorce. But, staying focused may be easier said than done.
No one gets married thinking that the union might end in a divorce, but we all know by now that the reality is that many marriages do end in this manner. While it may seem unfortunate to those who are on the outside looking in, for the couple who is going through the divorce the process may be putting an end to a relationship that simply wasn't working anymore and, therefore, both of the soon-to-be ex-spouses can look forward to another chapter in life.
There are probably quite a few New Jersey residents who make the decision to get a divorce without fully assessing the options for getting through the process. For some, there is a preconceived notion that the divorce case must play out in a courtroom, with arguments made in front of a family law judge. However, for many couples, there is another option: divorce mediation.
Thousands of New Jersey residents go through the divorce process each year. Although no one enters into a marriage with expectations that a divorce may be necessary at some point in the future, the reality is that divorce is fairly common. In many cases, there is no one to blame; it would just be better for everyone involved if the marriage came to an end. If you are still able to maintain a somewhat decent relationship with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, divorce mediation may be an option to help get you through the divorce process a bit more smoothly.